Please respond to all questions. As always, keep your language and ideas academic in nature!
- Pick out one quote that was significant to you. Explain it and why it was significant.
- What biases did you have, for or against the subject, while reading this text? When did you become aware of it and did it hinder your evaluating the text in an objective way?
- What ideas were you unfamiliar with from the text and how did you approach that information?
- Pose one question you have about the text.
- Attempt to answer someone else's question.
- Respond to another student's ideas-- agree, disagree, or add to what they have written in some way. Do not merely restate or parrot their statement. As always, be respectful and academic.
1.) A part of the text I found significant was, “Now that first impressions are often made in cyberspace, not face–to-face, people are not only strategizing about how to virtually convey who they are, but also grappling with how to craft an e-version of themselves that appeals to multiple audiences- co-workers, fraternity brothers, Mom and Dad.” Basically people are trying to convey themselves on the internet in a way they are not portrayed in real life. People that are elderly put pictures of themselves when they were teenagers because they may be content about their past appearances. As much as this is gratifying for some people it just makes people in general look very superficial, and fake. We are always trying to impress anyone we meet, and when it comes to cyberspace this is really easy to do because we are recreating our image. It can be a rewarding feeling for some of us, but cyberspace will never reveal who we truly are.
ReplyDelete1.) The 2nd passage in the article that stated “People look and act the way they do for reasons too numerous to fit into any therapist’s notebook. Yet we commonly shape our behavior or tweak our appearance in an attempt to control how others perceive us.” It is pretty significant to me because what it states is really true. It’s a thing inside all of us that we do what we can. Whether it would be to change our appearance, change the way we act, think of the way we perceive and think about things, or anything that can just be a change. People do these because we would want to impress the person or people that look up to these types of standards that we are following. It’s a common way because of the fact that the people we would want to impress, we wouldn’t want to disappoint
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1) A part of the text I found significant is located in paragraph 4, “Now that first impressions are often made in cyberspace, not face-to-face, people are not only strategizing about how to virtually convey who they are…” In other words, people try to be someone they’re not. When you meet someone new you want to always give a good impression and using facebook, myspace or other websites makes it seem easier to lie about who you really are. Some people might feel embarrassed that they make up fake information but when it’s time to meet the person face to face you realize you don’t know who they are at all. It’s wrong to do this because it can sometimes lead to that person realizing they don’t know who they are anymore or what they want to be. Reason being they are so focused in impressing others that they don’t realize they’re being someone they’re not.
ReplyDelete1.One quote that strikes me is ‘We’ve been struck by the dilemma people are in.” this is unusual to me because I never considered people changing their personas online for attraction purposes or whatever they may do it for. This is indeed a very true fact, and the main example is Facebook. People sometimes take hours just to perfectly edit a picture so that they look like a supermodel. They normally end up looking nothing like they really are at the end of the edit.
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2.I believe that even though people are trying to style themselves with edit and other terms I believe it is fine. We trust the technology so much and believe in all these sites when honestly it’s all covered up. In the end what you get is basically a fake. This doesn’t mean I’m against it just means that everyone needs to take a good look at people in the outside world and not what their “pics” are on Facebook.
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3. I was unfamiliar when the scholar said the world is round and the chemical symbol for water is H2O. As I read this paragraph over and over I don’t honesty understand it. The best information I can pull from all of this is that the scholar is saying that what people do by making themselves seem younger and thinner is just an everyday thing. I believe he is saying that stretching the truth is as natural as breathing.
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4.Why is it that everyone is so afraid of just being themselves and just being ok with what they are?
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1) “Everyone felt pretty strongly that they tried to be honest”. “They justified slight misrepresentations or distortions on trying to stand out”. This explains that people try to be honest in there online profile but sometimes can’t tell everything because of what might the other person think or say. As well they try to make themselves look better by putting some false stuff on their online profile so no one thinks he/she is such a loser. Its significant because many people try to be honest of who they really are on their online profile but can’t because other people might find them boring or dumb that’s why they feel the need to change who they really are for someone who you haven’t even met but only seen in a picture on your computer screen.
ReplyDelete6.I agree with what Natalia is stating in her first response. People are trying in lack of a better word be fake. Everyone seems to worry about their physical appearance to such a high extent. It’s no longer what makeup you can put on or what surgery you get. The times are changing and we are highly virtual now. It’s now about who can fix up their profile picture the best with proper lighting, coloring, etc. In the end a terrible picture can look like a wonder person who was chiseled by god himself. In all honesty the world has changed for sadly the worse and it doesn’t seem to be getting better.
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2.) When reading the text I am for the subject just because I practically always try to look my best when posting pictures, or statuses on Facebook. This is a web site in which anyone can access it. I don’t want to look indiscrete and allow others to see me like this. It does seem a bit superficial for me to make this choice, but on the other hand I am trying to look presentable. Who knows, a future employer can easily access my profile and check what I have posted. I really wouldn’t want him or her to see me with pajamas, and slippers on. In the end, I am posting things which are true. I have seen others that post pictures in which they took ten years ago. This just goes back to the main topic of first impressions.
ReplyDelete2.) For this article, I am pretty much against of the fact of “tweaking” or shaping your behavior in way to have others to look at you and say that they like you, but not for what you really are. People shouldn’t be changing their true self or be all copycats and like the same type of stuff another person likes. People should really appreciate for who you are really are and not what you want to become. I became aware in the 2nd passage, where it says that “Yet we commonly shape our behavior or tweak our appearance in an attempt to control how others perceive us.” It’s a bad, I say, thing, of ourselves that if we want impress a person that we like, or to impress your boss on your job, or impress your friends around you, that you have to change the style you wear and change the way you perceive things. Be proud of who you are and how you really are. Be true to yourself. Don’t let anyone infect your mind and make you change. Don’t let them control you. You can only control yourself.
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2) I am against the fact that people pretend to be someone they’re not on these online websites. There’s a saying that goes “if you can’t say it in person then don’t say it at all.” People have taken things over the limit where they begin to post inappropriate things but yet when you see them in person they don’t have the guts to tell you things in your face. I had a friend once and she wanted to be popular. So she started making up things on Facebook, she would begin to post pictures of her that it was as if she turned into a complete different person because I felt like I didn’t know her. She wanted some guy to like her so she became someone she wasn’t. I would confront her about it and tell her that this was not who she was, and to stop making up fake information to impress a guy. Unfortunately, she didn’t listen to me and we stopped being friends because she became popular and she began to do inappropriate things. Which is why when I see these things happening online on these websites It reminds me of her and how far people would go to impress someone.
ReplyDelete4.) Will there ever be a day in which we don’t put any effort into our physical appearance, and present ourselves in this manner?
ReplyDelete4) In response to Narine's question,I honestly think it's because some people are scared of being accepted for who they are. They are afraid of taking the risk of being themselves because they might feel rejected. Others want to make an impression to other people but they feel insecure about themselves so they pretend to be someone else. Nowadays people tend to judge others and critize them way more than before, that it got to a point where just being yourself seems intimidating.
ReplyDelete5.In response to Natalia’s question I don’t believe so. There will always be someone who needs to alter their appearance. There are so many insecure people in the world and it isn’t getting smaller. Society makes this seem like its normal. Because of this everyone follows the trend and wishes to be as good as the next. Since the world is changing for the worse due to the altering’s of people I believe that everyone feels comfortable changing their appearance.
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1) I’m against the subject of “Putting Your Best Cyberface Forward” when your best face is your own face. Like for example many people lie about everything on their profile such as myspace, facebook, hi5, etc. and put false things like their age or job or even their own picture. Why should a person feel the need to lie about who they are just to date someone because in the end both of you are thinking “ this is not what I expected” and that’s when everything starts to feel awkward.
ReplyDelete5) Do you think shutting these online websites down will help people be less intimidated about being themselves?
ReplyDelete6.) In response to Natalia's question I do not believe people will show their true colors even if online websites will be shut down. Whenever I go to a store and look at the magazines, the front covers always have women with beautiful outfits, and professional make-up on. People will continue to strive to look and act as something their not just to present themselves well. If people will stop caring about other peoples' about them, then maybe they will show others who they really are.
ReplyDelete3) Something I didn't understand from this article was probably "the world is round and the chemical symbol for water is H2O." I honestly don't understand what they mean by this quote. I tried to analyze it but I still didn't understand it. I thought maybe it might have meant something like pretending to be someone you're not is really easy.
ReplyDelete6) I agree with Narine's first response. It is very true. People spend hours editing their information or picture because they want it to seem perfect. When in reality, they are creating someone fake. Without even realizing that they eventually become that "fake" person. I guess everyone goes through this stage where they struggle to find themselves. However, they should never try to pretend to be someone they're not just to impress someone. it's not worth it, and in the end you'll just end up hurting yourself.
ReplyDelete1.Clare Richardson, 17 of Los Angeles, “is applying to colleges and is therefore mindful of what she posted on Facebook, but she knows teenagers who want to appear to be the partying type”. This person is very careful with what she puts on her social network, called Facebook. She basically cares about her first impression she would make to others. But the impression she wants to make is not to be the crazy/partying girl, if not she wants to let colleges, job opportunities, etc. that she’s a well-educated and sophisticated person. What she did, I did too. As my senior year in high school approached I started to notice I need to change my Facebook(even though I didn’t have anything inappropriate ) but I started to think about my future as for the college I wanted to attend or what if someday I get hired from a job. Now usually managers are sometimes going into Facebook actually looking future employees to see what they’re about and see if they’re good enough to represent their companies.
ReplyDelete2.To being with, now in days the social network is the place where everybody communicates. I have to say that I strongly agree with Stephanie Why? How Stephanie mentioned “but scholars say the mainstreaming of massive social networking and dating sites-which makes it easy to publicly share ones likes, dislikes, dreams, etc. Now we have been able to easily and fast communicate with others with the social networks. You can even find dates online because now we can post what we like, how we look like (even though some people would put pictures that were 2-3 years old).
ReplyDelete3.As long as I have been using Facebook, some information that was in this article I was unfamiliar with. Furthermore, Mr. Walter’s findings is that “ attractiveness of the friends on your Facebook profile affects the way people perceive you” I never knew that people would of looked at you differently because of the amount of friends you have, which is hard to believe. I don’t think it should matter who you have on Facebook, what should matter is what you’re posting on your page. I also learned something new as well that when a mall writes to a woman in the “wee hours” it makes them uncomfortable. Which I think I can agree with, it makes me a little uncomfortable when a male texts me or something after a certain time. Any females agree with me?
ReplyDelete4.Why do these social networks need to be so important to impress others so much?
ReplyDelete5.To Narine Medford
ReplyDeleteA lot of people have really low self-esteem because of the way they look most of the time. In other words, people might not post things that show who they really are because they don’t like how they look in the outside. Also, think because they don’t feel comfortable with their body. Therefore, I think people go on these social networks and put pictures of them when they were younger because they don’t like the way they look now. Honestly, I would have done the same if I didn’t like the way I look now.
6.To Yesenia Coronel
ReplyDeleteI agree with YESENIA, we all use Facebook and we don’t want to look like a crazy party animal, if not presentable. How I mentioned before you never know who’s looking at your profile. Could be anybody looking at your pictures, looking at what you’re doing and that person might just consider to hire you to work for their company. That’s why I think we should just be ourselves show the world who you really are and not be “fake”
significant quote to me was. " teenagers who want to appear to be the partying type". she said they post pictures that seem to prove it even if it is not true."its clear they're trying to impress everyone out there".people use this type of websites to show the audience a different side of them a person that is not real like the example given above,we have to show who we truly are to make it in life and trying to be someone we are not to impress somebody isn't right.showing inappropriate things on websites like "Facebook" wont help us achieve a better future. instead it would make us loss jobs opportunities.
ReplyDelete2) I am against the dating/matching websites because the fact that we do not know who we are talking to who is that person in the other side of the screen and what they are really looking for it is pretty dangerous if you ask me.Some people now a days does not have good intentions at all and the only thing they want is hurt others.
ReplyDelete3)something i was unfamiliar with was."today's social networking and dating sites are like impression management on steroids".i didn't really understand this but what i think it says its that people aren't being themselves and they are trying to show a side of them that isn't real to impress others.
ReplyDelete4) why cant people be themselves and show the real side of them? why are these networks so important to them?
ReplyDelete1)The quote i found significant to me is “Which image you present”.
ReplyDeleteI found it significant because any person online can act and look different.
for example maybe a cop or a teacher likes to party and they took pictures,
they can not post it on facebook, because the professional image will go away
and they will show who they are in really life.
2)The biases i have after reading this article makes me think a lot, why does people can not be them self know there is a lot of people who use facebook and other social websites to
meet new people and is really sad to know that there is a group of people who
act different or even post pictures from other people and act like other person.
I think they do that because they do not feel good about them self.
I became aware of this long time ago when myspace started because i used to talk
to a girl and she was really pretty and really nice, but by time i found out that
that girl was fake .dislike the fact that people do that be your self and enjoy your life
acting who you really are.
3)The idea that i was unfamiliar is with this quote “attractiveness of the friends on your Facebook profile affects the way people perceive you”
I heard of this because my mother always tells me, but on facebook ?
i did not know that having friends on facebook that are bad reputation
can make me look bad online.
4)My question is Would you be your self on any social website ?
5) Rochi , I guess is because we have so much technology and it has become part of our life.
ReplyDelete6) Daniella i agree with you about dating online because you dont get to know the real person behing the computer.
ReplyDeleteI agree with yesenia she is right people are trying to make themselves look different. they want to look thinner and younger. they want people to be impressed when they see them they want people judge them on how they look not on who they are .
ReplyDeletemy answer to George's question would be, i would be myself on any social website because i want people to like me for who i am not on how i look.
ReplyDeleteA quote that i thought was significant is "when people misrepresent themselves, it is often because they are attempting to express an idealized or future version of themselves." I think it's sad because everyone should love themselves for whom they are . And if they feel like something is missing in there life they should work on filling that whole .not by posting it on a website.
ReplyDeleteI believe that each on of us is unique and we all have that special something about us that everyone loves. we don't all have the looks . but we have or different personalities so we should always love ourselves and we should never pretend we are someone we are not.
ReplyDeleteThe text I'm unfamiliar with is "impression management" so if my friends on face book are criminals now I'm a criminal that's how people are going to judge me and if I'm my friends are not good looking I'm not good looking so I'm getting judged based on who my friends are.
ReplyDelete3. A part of the text I didnt quite understand wsa the statement in Page 3, 2nd passage. It says "The scholars found it common for online daters to fudge their age or weight, or to post photographs that were five years old. Also, the world is round and the cehmical symbol for water is H2O." At the end, it just sounded like a real random thing to say, I am assuming that its comparing that to what the scholars have found out about online daters.
ReplyDelete4. Why should others try so hard to impress and make themselves sound good, when sooner or later, they will get found out about what they really are?
ReplyDelete5. To Narine's question. Some people out there just can't accept the fact of how they are or how they look from other peoples' eyes. They become too insecure of themselves that they will try to change their looks or just change themselves so much that they forgotten who they was before. It's sad to know that there are really people like that who just hates themselves or denies something about themselves just to look good for other people.
ReplyDelete6. I agree with Natalia's reasoning for being against the fact the people pretend to be someone they are not. What is popularity? What does it REALLY mean to be popular nowadays? Getting yourself hurt doing stupid stuff? Changing your attitude towards people to fit in with the group that you want? Bullying and teasing people? Liking the same things the rest likes? I mean whatever happened to just being yourself and having people love you for what you are. They shouldnt expect you to be different, they expect you to be unique. That is what really counts. But nowadays people just can't accept that.
ReplyDelete3.) Something from the text I did not understand was, "Social scientists call it impression management." It doesn't make a lot of sense to call your appearance this. I don't understand why scientists have made this nickame and continue to put this comment in the article.
ReplyDelete6.) This is in response to Daniella's answer about teenagers trying to show off their party side. I have seen this numerous times and I find it funny how a thirteen year old has a picture of himself/herself holding a bottle of bacardi. I think this is funny because none of them are even legal to drink, so it is unecessary to take a picture of this. It just proves that teenagers want to look cool by posting pictures, quotes, etc. It doesn't make their image look cool, but really immature.
ReplyDelete1. 1.One quote that was significant to me was when Ms.Richardson was stating that certain people on facebook just try to impress everyone out there, even if their information wasn’t true. The reason people do that is because their worried how others would perceive them. In other words, they want to be popular, accepted, and respected by all. Many people are desperate to look their best on facebook that they even start to lie about themselves, which is sad. All this means is that the person is fake and not who they say they are.
ReplyDelete2. 2.I would gladly say that I was not against the subject. I agree with the social scientists when it comes to impression management because it is totally true. I became aware of this when Ms. Richardson was telling others how many people just try to impress everyone on facebook. It hindered my evaluation towards the text in a objective way because many people exaggerate on who they are. Many just want attention from everyone and want to be better than everyone as well. Also it’s not fair to others who are actually being honest about themselves on facebook. All hypocrites on facebook should be eliminated.
3. 3.Some ideas that I was unfamiliar with from the text was when the article was stating how some people call impression management common sense. It is not obvious or logical to tweak our appearance in order to control how others perceive us. This is something that people choose to do, while others are honest on whom they are. Bottom line is, People are either fake or real.
4. 4.Why do people have facebook? Is it to meet strangers? Is it because they have nothing else to do with their lives? Isn’t communication better and faster with a cell phone?
5. 5.I would like to answer Narine Medford’s question on why everyone is afraid of being themselves. The answer is that many people are insecure about themselves or simply just dislike who they are. Also many people aren’t satisfied with who they are or are worried that others wont accept them for who they are too. People shouldn’t live their lives worrying how others perceive them, it can lead to a life of lies.
6. 6.I agree with Yesenia Coronel when she was stating that people will never be honest about themselves even if they were to shutdown online websites. Impression management occurs everywhere in the world besides a computer. People do these by changing the way they look, speak, and act towards others. Now a days many people want to impress everyone.